I believe passionately that society needs to be more open about grief, death and dying. This quote from my first book, Gifted By Grief sums it up.
To be sticking our heads in the sand and finding these topics difficult to mention is complete madness, given we are all going to be affected by them sooner or later. It’s my intention to open up conversations about these topics and bring them out of the closet.
This is a desire that arose out of my husband Philip’s death in 2011, when it became obvious that he would have had a very different experience had he not been so afraid of dying.
I’ve worked for over twenty five years in the personal growth industry as a counselor, psychotherapist and group leader, and owned Oxfordshire’s largest complementary health clinic for 3 years. I am an author, coach and speaker, and have helped thousands of people around the world to transform their lives and business.
In 2017 I founded Before I Go Solutions, a not-for-profit dedicated to having end of life plans become as commonplace as birthplans, and to encourage people to be more at ease talking about dying, death and grief. I particularly am interested in working with carers and the cared-for (having known something of this when I was caring for Philip).
I’m known for my honest and refreshing look at life, which combined with a whole pile of wild wisdom which got unleashed as a result of his death helps my unique take on almost taboo topic.
Clients and course participants have told me it’s easy for them to open up and feel deeply heard. This allows the movement forward they are seeking, and sets the context for miracles to happen.
You were able to get were I was and appreciate when I was not in a good space. You listened and I found that comforting. You encouraged me throughout and believed in me when clearly I did not believe in myself.
I originally trained personally in 1990 with Louise L Hay, founder of Hay House publishers and author of the famous book, You Can Heal Your Life ®.
I published Choose Your Thoughts, Change Your Life in 1997, and co-authored with my husband, Philip Rogers, 60 Ways to Lose/Keep your Lover (2001). My Wild, Wise Words blog I have been writing in various guises since 2009.
I am associated with the world-renowned Findhorn Foundation Community; spiritual community, eco-village and learning centre in the Highlands of Scotland. It’s heavenly here!
I sing and perform in a well-known womens acappella group, Too Many Kooks, and love early morning walking in the woods behind my house, before my regular meditation practice in one of the sanctuaries belonging to the Foundation.
More recently I have set up a social enterprise Before I Go Solutions. This arose from readers asking me to help them answer the same questions which Philip and I asked and answered, and which I write about in Chapter 10 of Gifted By Grief. There’s lots of resources to help people design and create their own end of life plan here.
Currently, as well as helping private clients through the grieving process, I run courses and workshops on all aspects of end of life matters for the general public, plus offer CPD and bespoke business trainings for professionals of all kinds. See Before I Go Solutions for more info.
And what’s more – I am really loving it!