The tears gushed out suddenly when I passed the cream cheese in the supermarket aisle. It was so poignant, seeing this cheese, which I no longer needed to buy, and yet which had been one of the few foods that Philip could eat in his last months.
Author Archive | Jane Duncan Rogers
When you hear the word ‘cancer’ associated with someone close to you, it’s hard. The shock, even if you suspected it, can cause you to be clumsy with your communication. Disbelief is likely to stun you into silence. You may very well feel helpless. So what do you say? How can you best help them? […]
Sometimes it feels like you’re drowning, sometimes treading water, other times splashing about with your feet on the sand. Grief takes many forms and the image of an ocean is helpful when you realise that the ocean is in charge, and all you can do is learn to swim as best as possible. That means […]
What is it that everyone says to you? You’ll never get over it It’ll just take time These two things were said to me, and I’ve discovered, said to others too. They’re not helpful though, because they’re not true. Here’s why: ‘You’ll never get over it’ – death of a loved one is not something you […]
It’s feverish activity, and slumping for hours in a chair. It’s screaming your head off but remaining quiet; it’s forgetting little things and then forgetting that your loved one has died at all. It’s tears that never seem to stop flowing; and then a dam of tears that can’t break through; a boiling hot rage […]